Understanding others around you to feel happier in your job and setting boundaries
- The situation: B was struggling with the demands of his job and felt drained and exhausted.
- The coaching objective: To feel more valued and recognised
The situation
B was struggling with the demands of his job and felt drained and exhausted. He worked long hours, thought about work a lot in his spare time and worked weekends. Family and home life was suffering.
Working together
Guiding B through a process of understanding team dynamics, we explored what was within B’s control and what was not. B gained an understanding of how his own strengths under pressure could turn into perceived weaknesses. In addition, B learnt to put himself into the shoes of others and explore how they think and adapt his own communication style to talk their language.
B started to make time for his own priorities and asked for what he needed – e.g. time to reflect and to plan ahead to ensure that B had time for his own priorities and did not always react to the needs of others. As a result of this process, B realised that he allowed others to take priority at the expense of meeting his own objectives. In order to change the expectations of his team, B started to put boundaries in place to ensure his own needs were met as well by setting aside time each day to reflect and have planning time.
The outcome
B’s happiness at work improved, he felt more in the driving seat and by tuning in to his colleague’s language, they saw him as collaborative.
The systemic aspect
B was more able to switch off when not at work, regain his weekends and evenings which had a positive impact on family life.